Re 2.: ergodicity is always just an assumption, a modeling approach. You logically can't test for it, since that would require knowledge about all realizations over all if eternity.
Re 1.: stationarity is a property of a stochastic process, not of one realization. You simply might have had "bad luck" with this realization. But, if you asked me, assuming this realization somehow represents all realizations:
The sample variance of short intervals is definitely time-dependent. If that statement is true, it contradicts wide-sense stationarity. You don't need the autocorrelation to disprove wss.
Because you asked how to calculate the autocorrelation: again, autocorrelation is a property of a process, not of one of its realizations. Ergodicity changes that, but if you want to make a statement about the autocorrelation function of an ergodic process, you'd still need an infinite realization, not just a finite observation.