For small angles (see further explanation at end for further details on small angle approximation) the sidebands for phase modulation are closely related to the sidebands for amplitude modulation as revealed in the IQ phasor diagrams below.

Both diagrams show large carrier AM and PM modulation being modulated by a single sinusoidal tone, resulting in two sidebands in each case. The carrier is represented by a fixed phasor along the real axis, and each sideband is represented by the two rotating phasors which would rotate at the angular rate given by the modulation (the phasor rotating counter-clockwise represents the upper sideband, and the phase rotating clockwise represents the lower sideband, and the relative magnitudes of the phasors to the fixed carrier is the relative magnitude for each of those sidebands).
The net result is the addition of all the phasors shown.
In the case of the AM diagram shown, the two rotating phasors will always have imaginary components equal and opposite, which cancel, resulting in a real vector sinusoidally varying in magnitude that adds to the carrier (thus only the amplitude is modulated).
In the case of the PM diagram shown, the two rotating phasors will always have real components equal and opposite, which cancel, resulting in an imaginary vector sinusoidally varying in magnitude that adds to the carrier. Using the small angle approximation, the ratio of the magnitude of this vector to the fixed carrier vector is the angle in radians.
From this we see how we can control the amplitude of each of these sidebands from coherent AM and PM modulations:

Here we have the summation of AM and PM modulation components, in this case with the upper sideband (counter-clockwise rotation) of the AM in phase with the upper sideband of the PM, and the lower sideband of the AM in anti-phase with the lower sideband of the PM, the upper sideband of the combined waveform is the sum of the AM and PM amplitude components while the lower sideband is the difference.
Further notes on small angle approximation:
The AM modulation as shown will always have two sidebands for the case of a single tone sinusoidal modulation, as given by:
$$1 + k(e^{j\omega t} + e^{-j \omega t})$$
Where $ke^{j\omega t}$ represents a phasor of magnitude k and angle dependent on time ($\omega t$). Here the carrier is represented as magnitude 1 and each sideband has a magnitude k.
Using Euler's identity this is equivalent to:
$$1 + 2k\cos(\omega t)$$
Which is completely real, and thus only the amplitude of the signal is changing while the phase remains equal to 0.
The simplification of just having two sidebands for the PM case is only an approximation that holds well for small angles. The PM equation for this case is
$$1 + k(e^{j\omega t} - e^{-j \omega t})$$
Which reduces to
$$1 + j 2k\sin(\omega t)$$
This is a much more complicated formula which described in terms of magnitude and phase components is
$$\sqrt{1-4k^2\sin^2(\omega t)}e^{j2k\sin(\omega t)}$$
For small angles $\phi$, the $\sin(\phi) \approx \theta$ and thus the magnitude as given by the above formula in these cases is approximately 1 and the the phase modulation $\phi(t)$ is equal to $2k\sin\omega t$. For larger angles, the phase modulation is the same but an incidental AM will be introduced if we are limited to having only two sidebands. (Thus in pure PM which must stay on the unit circle meaning no AM, we will see additional sidebands appear as the angles increase which serve the purpose of keeping the net sum of all the phasors involved on the unit circle. The magnitude of each of these sidebands, which occur at multiples of the modulation rate, are given by Bessel Functions of the First Kind).
This is made clearer by observing the next figure where we see the desired PM in addition to incidental AM that will exist if we are limited to just two sidebands. The desired PM is shown as a single phasor which for a sinusoidal modulation resulting in only two sidebands would move vertically up and down in sinusoidal fashion. As it thus moves up and down, the phase will modulate as desired, however due to the restriction of remaining vertical (as constrained by the two sidebands as depicted in the first figure for PM), an incidental AM modulation will also result. This AM will be non-linear and contain many spectral components, initially the second harmonic will be dominant. Because the pure PM (which would result in the phasor staying on unit circle as the phase cycled sinusoidally) also contains many spectral components, the result of the mixed AM annd PM in this case is such that all the higher harmonics cancel, resulting in only two sidebands (and a mixed AM/PM modulation). For small angles (sidebands < -20dB) this effect is negligible, and a two sideband estimate of pure PM can used in most cases (refer to Bessel functions to determine the strength of each sideband; here is a good reference for further reading on that: https://www.zhinst.com/blogs/michele/files/downloads/2012/12/AMFM.pdf?file=downloads/2012/12/AMFM.pdf
