Eventhough I cannot really get the exact point of your confusion about the concept of frequency and its use in engineering, let me describe it like this.
Space, time and mass are fundamental constructs that we use to measure and describe physical events and objects using their length, volume, speed, duration and position etc...
When you want to describe a rotating wheel, then time duration of a single rotation is termed as a period; $T_0$ in seconds, as the event is periodic in nature, i.e., it repeats in time, ideally forever if not disturbed.
While the period of the rotating event is a sufficient descriptor of it, another very useful and equivalent descriptor is given by the number of rotations per unit time (such as a second), which is then called the frequency, $f_0$ Hertz (Hz.), of the event, which indicates and quantifies its repetition rate.
The usual relation between the period in time and frequency in Hz. is $$ f_0 = \frac{1}{T_0} $$
Period and frequency of spatial events are also described similarly but using meters for the unit of period and cycles per meter (cpm) for the frequency instead. Sub-units such as cycles per centimeter, per millimeter etc. can also be used. Period of a spatial periodicity can also denoted as its wavelength eventhough it's more suitable for traveling or standing waves at a velocity v.
Note, fundamentaly, that eventhough time and space are physical objects (constructs), the concept of frequency is a purely mathematical one. The importance of the frequency becomes more clear as modern mathematical inventions such as Fourier's theorem and later linear system thoery become ubiquitous devices of engineering and science.
First came Fourier's theorem (Fourier series) which stated that any periodic continous function (signal) can be expressed as a weighted sum of periodic and continuous sinusoids. The theorem extended to include those non-continuous periodic signals (such as periodic pulse trains) as well. Fourier's theorem is later mathematically modified by Dirichlet conditions to be consistent with the rest of the body. Then It's further generalized into continuous and discrete Fourier transforms so that it coulds be used to analyse even more practical signals which are not even periodic.
The main concept is that a periodic signal of fundamental frequency $f_0$ can also be expressed as a superposition sum of harmonic family of sine waves. So this provides the tool necessary to analyse signals by frequencies. What comes next is to analyse systems by frequencies?
And that's achieved by linear system theory, which states that linear (and time invariant) systems posses eigen-functions of periodic sinusoidal waves (complex exponentials more specifically) of arbitrary frequencies. Eigenfunction property of linear (time-invariant) systems make it very convenient to mathematically and practically analyse their behaviour by using periodic input excitations.
So, together with the Fourier's periodic decomposition and linear system theory based eigen-function properties of systems, engineers have a very fundamental method of analysis and design of practical systems.
That explains why concept of freuqency and its methematical extentions to CFS, CTFT, DTFT, DFS, DFT (FFT) are so important, usefull and versatile for modern engineering work.
That being said, nonlinear systems and transient system analysis is also as important (but more difficult) and sometimes even more important than the steady state, frequency based analysis of linear systems.