Let me answer in slightly different order:
3) It seems you're really asking for a "Goniometer", which is a 2 channel oscilloscope with the left and right signal components plotted in two orthogonal directions on the scope screen. These directions are typically chosen so that the signal channels make an angle of 45 degrees to the horizontal.
1) The correlation meter is often part of a Goniometer display and displays a value between -1 and +1 indicating the relative correlation between left and right channel. It is calculated using three different low pass filters acting on the left channel squared, the right channel squared and the product of the left and right channel. In math terms:
$$ c(t) = \frac{H_l ( L(t) \cdot R(t) )}{\sqrt{H_l( L(t)^2 ) \cdot H_l(R(t)^2)}} $$
where $L(t)$ and $R(t)$ are the channel signals and $H_l$ is the low pass filter. The low pass filter mimics a windowed integral, and the correlation is measured as average over the integration time. The equivalent integration time for audio use is typically in the range of 10 to 100 milliseconds, which gives a low pass cutoff of around 100 to 10 Hz.
2) And this definition coincides with Pearson's definition for a time range of length $T$ of the two channels exactly if the low pass filter used above is a box-filter with support of duration $T$.